In my previous post I shared what it was to be truly sexy and even let you in on a well-kept secret and shared the six traits you must possess to getting sexy back.
When a Girl Knows, She Knows
In case you missed it, here’s a small reminder: Sexy Back is what you get when you invest in yourself and your money (money invested is money working for you, not you for it. Hence, when you invest your money, you’re actually investing in you). It’s having the emotional and financial stamina to be solid as a rock, whatever the circumstances. That’s really sexy. I’m super sexy, so I know.
Imagine this: you’re sitting in a bar sipping drinks with your friends, and in walks a person who walks calmly to the bar and orders a drink. They look around them, completely minding their own business. They turn around to soak in the atmosphere just enjoying their drink. They finish up, smile, give a generous tip and leave. This person is not drop-dead gorgeous, or has anything special about their looks, but what they do have is an air of self-respect about them that is difficult to miss. They know their self-worth and they’re confident. They’re in control. They have Sexy Back. They’re super sexy and it shows.
This scenario has nothing dramatic about it – it’s just a normal, daily scenario that happens all around the world. In fact, we are surrounded by individuals who have Sexy Back – they’re cool, calm, collected and in complete control of their situation, even in the worst of disasters.
I Want Rock Solid
Think about it: who would you rather have around you when something bad happens? Me, I would want a person who knows they have the confidence to be in control in any scenario, no matter what. Think about who you would want around you if something happened? Who is the first person you would turn to if you needed help? You can bet your bottom dollar, it’s the calm and confident one in control, that’s who.
Get What it Takes
So, why not become that person? Why not get that air of sexy confidence and control others seem to possess?
Well, you can. Here’s how:
Tidy up and organize.
You saw that right.
The first step to getting that feeling of being in control of your life and your finances is to tidy up. And I don’t mean just putting things away. No, no. I mean taking a few days off work to really go through all your possessions, such as clothes, books, kitchenware, financial statements and paperwork, emotional memorabilia and that other stuff you have lying around that you can’t seem to get to.
Having Control is Sexy
It may sound strange to you that this is the first step to getting that sense of confidence that leads to an air of sexiness and getting that sexy back. But think about it: what is the core component of confidence? Having control.
Organizing your life and realizing what you have, what makes you truly happy and what your needs are, are the key components of gaining control. Lack of control leads to a messy environment, scattered thoughts that interfere with what you really want out of life. YOUR life.
Some people are scared of tidying up and organizing because they know that doing so will force them to face underlying truths that they feel they cannot handle, or have no control over, whether it’s being in an unfulfilling relationship, job, living environment or having crappy friends that drag you down (I have been in all of these situations and they sucked. And then I took control).
It’s scary, I know. But you only live once – wouldn’t it be scarier to have it all end tomorrow without really having lived the life you want? The life you so, so deserve?
Before you run off to tidy up and organize. You need to be organized to organize. There is a proven technique in tidying up and organizing your life.
First, do yourself a humongous favour and read this book. At first, you’ll think this woman has a problem along the lines of OCD or something. But then, when you start applying her technique you’ll start to see what she means by “clean air”. It’s a heck of a lot more than just tidying up – it’s getting that life you have dreamed of, the one that makes you happy.
But getting there is not easy. This technique takes time, so be sure to make time for it. It will make you face the good and the bad in your life and you’ll see yourself in raw mode – I warn you: it is not always a pretty sight.
The best part about it is that you’ll have to do this only once in your life (maintaining it is a lot easier, believe me) and at the end of the process you’ll have complete control over your life. Once your thoughts have cleared, you start to see clearly who and what make you truly truly happy. This process took me well over two months and it’s still ongoing.
Honestly, this stuff is better than therapy.
Started already? How’s it going?
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